Written By: KIM BRUMMELL

Written By:  KIM BRUMMELL
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Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts

Saturday, October 2, 2010

SEX IN THE PULPIT

Many people will agree, sex is a beautiful thing. One way it can get real ugly, is when you have pulpit prostitution taking place.



Scandal isn't something of the past when it comes to Bishops, Priests or Pastors of the church and the sins they often preach against. This is what makes sex in the pulpit to the media and community; astonishing, shocked, disappointed, humiliated and in total disgust.

How can you lead by example or your congregation, when your own house isn't in order? I'm talking about the house that your children, spouse and other love ones may reside. The one you leave before you come into the house of the Lord, with members paying tithes to fulfill your lust and riches. That's not even right, when we have homeless people out on the streets, living in poverty, people unable to afford healthcare or losing jobs to a dwindled economy.

Bishop Eddie Long is an awesome speaker, leader of New Birth Missionary Church in the Atlanta, Georgia area. I'm actually not ashamed to say I listened to him tonight on television. He is also a troubled man right now, with civil lawsuits basically accusing him, for a lack of better words, being a fake, flossing, freak in the closet so-called man of God. This is still yet to be seen in a court of law. But in today's society, we are really guilty until proven innocent.







Fancy cars, lavish homes, trips and lots of money is what most young people and adults dream of. What happens when you get it & have it snatched from right under your feet? Would the accusers (pictured above) have filed law suits if Bishop Long continued to give these things? Also, what kind of father figure performs sexual acts on their child and you still believe that's an act of a father? At 16-18 years old, are our minds developed enough to know right from wrong? Can a person take that much control of your life, where you are completely pimped or brainwashed? These are the questions the court needs to ask and get an answer?

Bishop Long is one of many pastors or priests over the years that has been accused of having sex with young boys or members of the church. We don't know what happened with him & four young men who have filed civil suits against him. Only God can judge him now and them. If all involved are lying or in denial because of money, lust or self-gratification, judgement day will take its course.

The Bishop has dedicated himself crusading against homosexuality. Now look at him now. First of all Bishop Long, I don't think too many people choose to be gay with all the peer-pressure, politics and controversy that involves the lifestyle. Regardless, we should be preaching how to love each other God's way, not the you're not living right adage. Especially, now after Long spoke to his 25,000 church members and the world to let us know, "I'm not a perfect man". Then again, who is? Now, look at him now. I feel like David versus Goliath Bishop Long said at a recent church service. I think he made a crucial mistake when he made this address. What was that mistake that made Long look guilty? He "never" stated, I stand before you in the house of the Lord to say, "I'm completely innocent of all these false accusations against me". That would have spoke volumes before his fellow worshippers.

It takes a fighter to move forward and let the truth prevail. It takes a coward to try to break a fortress down, use and abuse without just cause.

We should only wait and pray that this resolve itself for the best of New Birth Church, the families of Eddie Long and his plaintiffs, as well as the rest of the world who is so moved by this man's powerful speaking and influence. Bishop Long's congregation is continuing to stand by him right now. They are indeed, a part of his family. He should be thankful and I'm sure he is with the bullets he's dodging from those against him.

What's a house without a foundation? It's nothing, because all it will do is just "fall".

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

SEX ADDICTION....



Are we addicted to sex? Everywhere you turn for a hot news story, sex appears to sell. Many are hooked on the little three - letter word but those three letters are as big as the titanic. Can you really live without it? How long can you go without having sex? What makes sex good for you?

Sex leads to marriage. Sex leads to divorce. Sex leads to losing a job or prominent position when caught in the act. Sex, sex, sex! From pro-golfer Tiger Woods (pictured above),who has the biggest international sex scandal right now, sex is not a thing of the past.

Let's face it. Sex makes you feel worthiness, fulfilled, loved, energetic and happy. It also boost your ego and pride to get that one hot man or woman. Sex has such a strong urge, cheating is also attached to its title in relationships. The need to have more and more also contributes to addiction.





Famous people aren't strangers to sex scandals. Sex is a need to control, a desire of power and dominance for the fortunate. With money and power, the more you get, the more you want. Former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer (pictured above) resigned over a sex-prostitution scandal in 2009 over his mistress (pictured left).

I can personally go months without sex. I'm not saying it's easy. Being in the military, deploying and so forth, you discipline your sex drive if you want to. For those who have been incarcerated, it should be the same way. It starts with the ability to train the mentality to say "no" to temptation which can be very, very hard. To me, what makes sex good depends on each individual person. A nice ass, lips, chest or just a sexy walk may reel me in. That's called "swagger" in the world of hip-hop. To simply carry yourself as a take charge person is sexy! The simple things such as strong eye contact can speak to your soul and make your jaws drop.

How do you know if you are a sex addict? How about use some common sense. You have a relationship with an attractive person who is sexually active with you. Still, there is an urge to get the next hottie in the club or the one working out in the gym. Paying to have sex with someone you don't know, escort services when you have a mate at home can all be signs of an addiction. One sex partner after another and another is a red flag. Then there is the online porn, XXX movies in the store that contribute to your every sexual desire.




We are often reminded on the radio airwaves of the strip clubs. Strip clubs can be addictive. It's like gambling. The more you spend, the more you hope to get and see. You risk it all. It's like a crack addict with a habit. You need that fix to keep getting "high". Over the years, there has been an increase of women going to the strip clubs. I guess, "curiosity kills the cat". The biggest influence when it comes to sexual gratification is "peer pressure".

If we aren't getting enough from the opposite sex, same-sex relationships may come into play also. We've heard a lot of talk about the down-low brother. It's plenty of down-low sisters also. Trust me, I know. Us women tend to be more foxy and witty with our biz. We are more concerned about how we air our dirty laundry compared to men. Too many men carry the egotistical approach with "it's a man's world" attitude.

In the meantime, safe sex is the best sex.