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Wednesday, December 16, 2009


Are we addicted to sex? Everywhere you turn for a hot news story, sex appears to sell. Many are hooked on the little three - letter word but those three letters are as big as the titanic. Can you really live without it? How long can you go without having sex? What makes sex good for you?

Sex leads to marriage. Sex leads to divorce. Sex leads to losing a job or prominent position when caught in the act. Sex, sex, sex! From pro-golfer Tiger Woods (pictured above),who has the biggest international sex scandal right now, sex is not a thing of the past.

Let's face it. Sex makes you feel worthiness, fulfilled, loved, energetic and happy. It also boost your ego and pride to get that one hot man or woman. Sex has such a strong urge, cheating is also attached to its title in relationships. The need to have more and more also contributes to addiction.

Famous people aren't strangers to sex scandals. Sex is a need to control, a desire of power and dominance for the fortunate. With money and power, the more you get, the more you want. Former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer (pictured above) resigned over a sex-prostitution scandal in 2009 over his mistress (pictured left).

I can personally go months without sex. I'm not saying it's easy. Being in the military, deploying and so forth, you discipline your sex drive if you want to. For those who have been incarcerated, it should be the same way. It starts with the ability to train the mentality to say "no" to temptation which can be very, very hard. To me, what makes sex good depends on each individual person. A nice ass, lips, chest or just a sexy walk may reel me in. That's called "swagger" in the world of hip-hop. To simply carry yourself as a take charge person is sexy! The simple things such as strong eye contact can speak to your soul and make your jaws drop.

How do you know if you are a sex addict? How about use some common sense. You have a relationship with an attractive person who is sexually active with you. Still, there is an urge to get the next hottie in the club or the one working out in the gym. Paying to have sex with someone you don't know, escort services when you have a mate at home can all be signs of an addiction. One sex partner after another and another is a red flag. Then there is the online porn, XXX movies in the store that contribute to your every sexual desire.

We are often reminded on the radio airwaves of the strip clubs. Strip clubs can be addictive. It's like gambling. The more you spend, the more you hope to get and see. You risk it all. It's like a crack addict with a habit. You need that fix to keep getting "high". Over the years, there has been an increase of women going to the strip clubs. I guess, "curiosity kills the cat". The biggest influence when it comes to sexual gratification is "peer pressure".

If we aren't getting enough from the opposite sex, same-sex relationships may come into play also. We've heard a lot of talk about the down-low brother. It's plenty of down-low sisters also. Trust me, I know. Us women tend to be more foxy and witty with our biz. We are more concerned about how we air our dirty laundry compared to men. Too many men carry the egotistical approach with "it's a man's world" attitude.

In the meantime, safe sex is the best sex.


  1. Tiger Woods is not a sex addict, he's a cheater. There's a huge difference. That's just an excuse.

    Every person on this planet would like to have sex a lot, but only the completely self-centered people cheat on their partners.

    I realize celebrities have more options, but it's still no excuse.

  2. I agree. Like I mentioned, the more you have, sometimes the more you want. That can be part of an addiction phase. It's like a crack addict needing a fix. It takes another and another to stay high.

  3. There's been too many people accused of being sex "Addicts" from the Former President to governors, singers to athletes. I find it kinda corny either way. People are people and we are all human. The "Celebrity" is just under a certain microscope. A microscope that will kill the average person walking the streets if our privacy was invaded. It is what it is. Most peeps cheat not because of addiction but not being fulfilled in a certain aspect of their current relationship, which doesn't have to be sexual. Of course it can be just our selfish nature.

  4. Thank you for your comment Curtis. I think just the normal day to day people may have a selfish nature.